What is the purpose of obsession?

How often have you experiences obsession? If you are like me you will answer that question from a non-personal perspective. You will think in terms of when you have seen obsession in others. So lets rephrase the question. When have you obsessed about something? Now be honest...

Obsession has a wide range of influence from getting up at the same time every morning to washing your hands 100 times a day. Obsession has to do with the control it exercises in you life. Getting up at the same time gets you to work. Washing your hands 100 times controls much of your life. So lets rephrase the question again. When have you formed a pattern about something that went beyond realistic expectations? Now be honest...

We form patterns or habits because we don’t want to lose something. We ask for the same flavor of ice cream because we know that we like it. But is the pattern serving us? Is there a more likable flavor out there? So lets rephrase the question again. When have you missed an opportunity because of an old habit? Now be honest...

Fear of going backwards plays a big part. If I get the same ice cream every time at least I’ll be happy. But how happy? Does doing the same thing increase my happiness or does it just freeze my happiness? There is nothing wrong with fearing a loss of happiness, but does the fear stick you into a place that ultimately brings unhappiness? So lets rephrase the question again. What is it that you fear about changing the habit? Now be honest...

Well, the biggest fear of all is the fear of change. If something changes we step into an unknown situation that may actually be worse. If we could see the result of the change before experiencing the change, would the fear go away? The answer depends upon how we adjust to the change. Its an internal thing. It has nothing to do with the obsession. It has to do with reluctance about seeing the world within us. So lets rephrase the question again. What is it about yourself that you don’t want to look at? Now be honest...

That’s the end of the questions. Now, take a deep breath... Obsession was invented so we form habits in order to realize that we are missing opportunities so we can overcome a fear of changing something about ourself that we don’t want to see. Now, don’t forget to let the breath out...

The bottom line is that obsession provides a catalyst for interpersonal change. The way out is simple. I’ve found that the following affirmation helps a lot...


Oops, ran out of time - perhaps you could create an affirmation that would be helpful.

What do you think?

Sam